I find so many couples drift apart,or go astray becuase they feel like they have lost that spark!Keep it alive!If your partners busy come up from behind them and wrap your arms around them,if they are walking by you,stop them and give them a kiss on the cheek!Jump on his back for a piggy back ride if you two are out on a walk.Keep the romance alive and you can be sure either of you will ever stray!
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10/11/2007
10/10/2007
I met my perfect love on InterracialFriends.com
I winked at Rhonda on the 24th of July on InterracialFriends.com. She liked my smile and says that she laughed at my profile when I said that the woman could be smarter than me. We emailed, spoke on the phone, and had our first date on the 4th of August. I knew right away that I wanted to go out with her again. On October the 7th we took a trip to Memphis. While at B.B. King's Blues Club we listened to Preston Shannon sing The Way That You Love Me. I knew right then, that she was the ONE that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. When we came home on Monday, I asked her the question burning on my mind. "What's your ring size?" We went shopping that Saturday for rings. We picked out a ring and I proposed in the jewelry store. I asked Rhonda to spend the rest of her life with me. She said yes. We are getting married on July 21st, 2007.
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10/03/2007
Love Story: She walked down the stairs and into his heart
DEBORAH SHOUSE
Jim Smith recalls the first time he really “saw” Elaine.
“She was walking down the stairs at Kansas City Junior College,” he says. “I had met Elaine before, but I had never really noticed her. She looked so beautiful coming down those stairs, I decided to ask her out for a date.”
It was spring of 1959. Jim, then 19, asked Elaine Anderson, also 19, out.
“I’m busy,” she said.
He asked her out for another day. She was also busy then.
“Jim was good-looking,” Elaine says. “He seemed nice, but I was dating other people, and I was busy.”
Still, he persisted until she said yes to a Sunday evening date.
Jim wanted to arrive on time and make a good impression. He strode up to Elaine’s house, rang the doorbell and then looked at his watch. He was an hour early.
“I couldn’t believe he was so early,” Elaine recalls.
Back in those days, girls got dressed up for dates. Elaine had on her high heels and was hurrying into her new dress when she somehow stepped on the skirt and ripped it. Her mother had to do some quick mending.
Elaine was not swept away by her date with Jim.
“I didn’t like him arriving early. I didn’t like the movie he picked out. It was not love at first sight,” she says.
Still, she agreed to go out with him again.
They began seeing each other, and Elaine soon realized she enjoyed being around him.
“He’s a wonderful, caring person, lots of fun with a good sense of humor,” she says. “My feelings grew. All of a sudden, I realized I loved him.”
Jim, too, found himself growing deeper in love.
“She seemed to be occupying all my time and all my thoughts,” he says. “I thought, ‘This may be the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with.’ Sure enough, she was.”
On Christmas 1960, Jim gave Elaine a tea set and an engagement ring. They were married Dec. 16, 1961, on a day so icy they almost couldn’t get to the church. They headed out for a honeymoon in Hot Springs, Ark., on slick roads in a dense fog and ended up staying in Warrensburg instead.
Today the couple live in Independence. Jim works for Ball’s Price Chopper in shipping and receiving. Elaine is retired from working in a doctor’s office. They have two daughters and two grandchildren and enjoy walking, biking, eating out and spending time with their family.
“I feel the Lord led us to each other,” Jim says. “We feel so lucky and blessed to be together.”
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Jim Smith recalls the first time he really “saw” Elaine.
“She was walking down the stairs at Kansas City Junior College,” he says. “I had met Elaine before, but I had never really noticed her. She looked so beautiful coming down those stairs, I decided to ask her out for a date.”
It was spring of 1959. Jim, then 19, asked Elaine Anderson, also 19, out.
“I’m busy,” she said.
He asked her out for another day. She was also busy then.
“Jim was good-looking,” Elaine says. “He seemed nice, but I was dating other people, and I was busy.”
Still, he persisted until she said yes to a Sunday evening date.
Jim wanted to arrive on time and make a good impression. He strode up to Elaine’s house, rang the doorbell and then looked at his watch. He was an hour early.
“I couldn’t believe he was so early,” Elaine recalls.
Back in those days, girls got dressed up for dates. Elaine had on her high heels and was hurrying into her new dress when she somehow stepped on the skirt and ripped it. Her mother had to do some quick mending.
Elaine was not swept away by her date with Jim.
“I didn’t like him arriving early. I didn’t like the movie he picked out. It was not love at first sight,” she says.
Still, she agreed to go out with him again.
They began seeing each other, and Elaine soon realized she enjoyed being around him.
“He’s a wonderful, caring person, lots of fun with a good sense of humor,” she says. “My feelings grew. All of a sudden, I realized I loved him.”
Jim, too, found himself growing deeper in love.
“She seemed to be occupying all my time and all my thoughts,” he says. “I thought, ‘This may be the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with.’ Sure enough, she was.”
On Christmas 1960, Jim gave Elaine a tea set and an engagement ring. They were married Dec. 16, 1961, on a day so icy they almost couldn’t get to the church. They headed out for a honeymoon in Hot Springs, Ark., on slick roads in a dense fog and ended up staying in Warrensburg instead.
Today the couple live in Independence. Jim works for Ball’s Price Chopper in shipping and receiving. Elaine is retired from working in a doctor’s office. They have two daughters and two grandchildren and enjoy walking, biking, eating out and spending time with their family.
“I feel the Lord led us to each other,” Jim says. “We feel so lucky and blessed to be together.”
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Baha’i faith eases the tests that come with interracial marriage
AARON DOHOGNE
At first Debra Byndom was reluctant to let her son marry a white woman. Tyree Byndom’s past relationships with white women made his mother believe this one wouldn’t work. Tyree is black, and Jesca, the woman he had been dating, is white.
Debra was going to make sure that if Tyree was going to marry Jesca she understood how important family was.
“She asked me if I was going to love him or the family,” Jesca Byndom said. “I was ready to love the family.”
United by a common faith in God, Baha’u’llah, prophet-founder of the Baha’i faith, and a belief that they can help create world peace as a married couple, Tyree and Jesca fell in love. And the idea of the oneness of humanity, the most important belief to the Baha’i faith, has guided the Byndoms through the tests of being interracially married and ultimately, to a greater faith.
“The principal elimination of prejudice of all kinds was very important to me,” Tyree said. “Once I expanded my mind, I forgot about my oppression. I always put my life in terms of ‘us’ and ‘them’ before. But the Baha’i faith erased the ‘my’ people and ‘their’ people perception. It became ‘our’ people.”
The monotheistic Baha’i faith has roots in many religions. Through the oneness of humanity, Baha’is believe that many of the world’s religions and their prophets are manifestations of God and linked by his evolutionary path for humanity. Baha’is believe that humanity’s oneness will inevitably produce world peace as people come together.
By believing in the importance of world peace, Baha’is are strong believers in learning about different cultures and are usually positive about the prospects of interracial marriages connecting divided people.
“If me and Jesca can come together with our history and our color, I think this shows that people can show commonality and love for one another,” Tyree said. Tyree and Jesca agree that had it not been for the Baha’i teachings they wouldn’t have tried to love each other’s family as much as they did.
“I’ve grown to love (Tyree’s family) for God’s sake, not myself or themselves,” Jesca said.
Still there are family tests that are hard to get past. Jesca’s mom is more passive while Tyree’s mom is more aggressive, and the two have yet to connect. They’re polite with each other but aren’t friends, Tyree and Jesca agreed.
Tyree and Jesca’s wedding was another test. Although some racial tensions were revealed, other signs pointed toward the positive.
Many of Tyree’s aunts and uncles didn’t attend the wedding, and many of the uncles still don’t fully regard Jesca as a family member, Tyree said.
But Jesca’s dad was supportive of the marriage and was offended that Jesca thought he had a racial bias, she said.
By being interracially married, Tyree and Jesca know they have come to understand each other’s background better.
“By being Baha’i I’ve learned about black culture,” Jesca said. “I could have real friendships and not just surface relationships.”
For Katrina and Kurt Saxton, also members of Columbia’s Baha’i community, being interracially married has been reaffirming for them by helping them show unity in diversity.
“I think because the faith puts so much stress on being loving towards one another in marriage, but not to make a bond out of the love the faith has affected us,” Kurt Saxton said. “We became very accepting of each other’s differences. It’s something we incorporated into our vows — strings on an instrument might be different but they are tuned to the same melody.”
Coming into the faith
Jesca introduced Tyree to the Baha’i faith when they first met, and within two weeks he had joined the faith. Although Tyree was initially attracted to its beliefs in gender equality, he was also impressed with the faith’s emphasis on interracial marriage.
It was also his goal for his relationship with Jesca to be pure.
It was a difficult decision, Tyree said, because he was physically attracted to Jesca but they both wanted to base the relationship in a mutual love for God and Baha’u’llah. That meant no kissing or sexual relations, he said.
“I didn’t use any game with her,” Tyree said. “I stopped running game two or three years before because I knew it wasn’t holy. I wanted to be a true representative of God.” While Jesca was in Santa Cruz, Calif., teaching at a Baha’i school, she asked Tyree to marry her. Jesca returned to Columbia more than a year and half after they met, but Tyree and Jesca didn’t get married for another two years.
To marry, Baha’is must have their parents’ permission, which was something Debra wasn’t initially willing to give. Between each other they disagree about whether or not race was an issue for their parents, but the couple do agree that their parents wanted them to get to know each other better first.
Tyree and Jesca know the tests they went through in order to be together were worth it.
“We really are one soul,” Jesca said.
Like the Byndoms, Katrina Saxton introduced Kurt to the Baha’i faith before they got married. Both Katrina and Kurt had been bothered by the hypocrisy and discrimination of members of their former Christian churches.
After seeing a poster at her college for a Baha’i faith meeting on interracial dating, Katrina decided to read more about it. She found herself in agreement with much of the religion’s teachings.
“I was amazed,” she said. “I would read and think, ‘Oh, I believe that.’ I liked the idea that religion should be a cause of unity and should never separate people from one another.”
After talking to Katrina about the Baha’i faith, Kurt said he “instinctively felt it to be true.”
“I read how the religion encouraged people of different cultures to come together, so to better understand one another,” Kurt said.
Kurt was surprised when he came across interracial marriage support within the Baha’i faith. For both Kurt and Katrina’s families, being married interracially wasn’t an issue.
“Other religions might accept inter-ethnic marriage, but they don’t encourage it,” Kurt said.
While interracial marriage is considered as a way for different cultures to learn about one another, the Byndoms and the Saxtons agree that the Baha’i faith believes marriage should ultimately be based in a love for God.
“Just because we’re inter-ethnically married doesn’t mean we’re better than anyone else,” Kurt said. “Marriage is based on love, and when cultures come together and learn from one another, these people become richer in person.”
For Tyree and Jesca, getting married was about their love for each other, not skin color.
“The focus is on us as a human race,” Tyree said. “People don’t date because of a race but because of a soul.”
At first Debra Byndom was reluctant to let her son marry a white woman. Tyree Byndom’s past relationships with white women made his mother believe this one wouldn’t work. Tyree is black, and Jesca, the woman he had been dating, is white.
Debra was going to make sure that if Tyree was going to marry Jesca she understood how important family was.
“She asked me if I was going to love him or the family,” Jesca Byndom said. “I was ready to love the family.”
United by a common faith in God, Baha’u’llah, prophet-founder of the Baha’i faith, and a belief that they can help create world peace as a married couple, Tyree and Jesca fell in love. And the idea of the oneness of humanity, the most important belief to the Baha’i faith, has guided the Byndoms through the tests of being interracially married and ultimately, to a greater faith.
“The principal elimination of prejudice of all kinds was very important to me,” Tyree said. “Once I expanded my mind, I forgot about my oppression. I always put my life in terms of ‘us’ and ‘them’ before. But the Baha’i faith erased the ‘my’ people and ‘their’ people perception. It became ‘our’ people.”
The monotheistic Baha’i faith has roots in many religions. Through the oneness of humanity, Baha’is believe that many of the world’s religions and their prophets are manifestations of God and linked by his evolutionary path for humanity. Baha’is believe that humanity’s oneness will inevitably produce world peace as people come together.
By believing in the importance of world peace, Baha’is are strong believers in learning about different cultures and are usually positive about the prospects of interracial marriages connecting divided people.
“If me and Jesca can come together with our history and our color, I think this shows that people can show commonality and love for one another,” Tyree said. Tyree and Jesca agree that had it not been for the Baha’i teachings they wouldn’t have tried to love each other’s family as much as they did.
“I’ve grown to love (Tyree’s family) for God’s sake, not myself or themselves,” Jesca said.
Still there are family tests that are hard to get past. Jesca’s mom is more passive while Tyree’s mom is more aggressive, and the two have yet to connect. They’re polite with each other but aren’t friends, Tyree and Jesca agreed.
Tyree and Jesca’s wedding was another test. Although some racial tensions were revealed, other signs pointed toward the positive.
Many of Tyree’s aunts and uncles didn’t attend the wedding, and many of the uncles still don’t fully regard Jesca as a family member, Tyree said.
But Jesca’s dad was supportive of the marriage and was offended that Jesca thought he had a racial bias, she said.
By being interracially married, Tyree and Jesca know they have come to understand each other’s background better.
“By being Baha’i I’ve learned about black culture,” Jesca said. “I could have real friendships and not just surface relationships.”
For Katrina and Kurt Saxton, also members of Columbia’s Baha’i community, being interracially married has been reaffirming for them by helping them show unity in diversity.
“I think because the faith puts so much stress on being loving towards one another in marriage, but not to make a bond out of the love the faith has affected us,” Kurt Saxton said. “We became very accepting of each other’s differences. It’s something we incorporated into our vows — strings on an instrument might be different but they are tuned to the same melody.”
Coming into the faith
Jesca introduced Tyree to the Baha’i faith when they first met, and within two weeks he had joined the faith. Although Tyree was initially attracted to its beliefs in gender equality, he was also impressed with the faith’s emphasis on interracial marriage.
It was also his goal for his relationship with Jesca to be pure.
It was a difficult decision, Tyree said, because he was physically attracted to Jesca but they both wanted to base the relationship in a mutual love for God and Baha’u’llah. That meant no kissing or sexual relations, he said.
“I didn’t use any game with her,” Tyree said. “I stopped running game two or three years before because I knew it wasn’t holy. I wanted to be a true representative of God.” While Jesca was in Santa Cruz, Calif., teaching at a Baha’i school, she asked Tyree to marry her. Jesca returned to Columbia more than a year and half after they met, but Tyree and Jesca didn’t get married for another two years.
To marry, Baha’is must have their parents’ permission, which was something Debra wasn’t initially willing to give. Between each other they disagree about whether or not race was an issue for their parents, but the couple do agree that their parents wanted them to get to know each other better first.
Tyree and Jesca know the tests they went through in order to be together were worth it.
“We really are one soul,” Jesca said.
Like the Byndoms, Katrina Saxton introduced Kurt to the Baha’i faith before they got married. Both Katrina and Kurt had been bothered by the hypocrisy and discrimination of members of their former Christian churches.
After seeing a poster at her college for a Baha’i faith meeting on interracial dating, Katrina decided to read more about it. She found herself in agreement with much of the religion’s teachings.
“I was amazed,” she said. “I would read and think, ‘Oh, I believe that.’ I liked the idea that religion should be a cause of unity and should never separate people from one another.”
After talking to Katrina about the Baha’i faith, Kurt said he “instinctively felt it to be true.”
“I read how the religion encouraged people of different cultures to come together, so to better understand one another,” Kurt said.
Kurt was surprised when he came across interracial marriage support within the Baha’i faith. For both Kurt and Katrina’s families, being married interracially wasn’t an issue.
“Other religions might accept inter-ethnic marriage, but they don’t encourage it,” Kurt said.
While interracial marriage is considered as a way for different cultures to learn about one another, the Byndoms and the Saxtons agree that the Baha’i faith believes marriage should ultimately be based in a love for God.
“Just because we’re inter-ethnically married doesn’t mean we’re better than anyone else,” Kurt said. “Marriage is based on love, and when cultures come together and learn from one another, these people become richer in person.”
For Tyree and Jesca, getting married was about their love for each other, not skin color.
“The focus is on us as a human race,” Tyree said. “People don’t date because of a race but because of a soul.”
9/04/2007
Interracial relationships are on the increase in U.S., but decline with age, Cornell study finds
ITHACA, N।Y. -- Interracial relationships and marriages are becoming more common in the United States, according to a new Cornell University study.
The number of interracial marriages involving whites, blacks and Hispanics each year in the United States has jumped tenfold since the 1960s, but the older individuals are, the less likely they are to partner with someone of a different race, finds the new study.
Pat Cassano, assistant professor of nutritional sciences, and Ron Booker, associate professor of neurobiology and behavior, are an interracial couple who have been together since she was 19 and he was 20 years old, about 31 years ago।
"We think that's because relationships are more likely to be interracial the more recently they were formed, so younger people are more likely to have interracial relationships। This trend reflects the increasing acceptance of interracial relationships in today's society," said Kara Joyner, assistant professor of policy analysis and management at Cornell and co-author of a study on interracial relationships in a recent issue of the American Sociological Review (Vol. 70:4).
Although more young adults are dating and cohabiting with someone of a different race, the study found that interracial relationships are considerably less likely than same-race relationships to lead to marriage, though this trend has weakened in recent years.
To explore the changing patterns of interracial sexual relationships during the transition to adulthood, Joyner and her co-author, Grace Kao, associate professor of sociology at the University of Pennsylvania, analyzed data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health and the National Health and Social Life Survey, some of the first nationally representative surveys to collect information on sexual relationships।
"Studying trends in interracial sexual relationships is important because intimate relationships between different racial groups are viewed as an indicator of the social and geographic distance between racial groups, and a barometer of race relations," said Joyner। Unlike other studies, which typically look at marriage or cohabitation and sometimes at current dating relationships, this study looked at trends in these relationships over a 10-year period.
The researchers found that among 18- to 25-year-olds in 1990 and in 2000, interracial sexual involvement became increasingly common, with the greatest increase seen in cohabitating relationships, followed by dating relationships and then marriages।
Yet, interracial relationships declined with age within these two periods। In 1990, for example, about 14 percent of 18- to 19-year-olds, 12 percent of 20- to 21-year-olds and 7 percent of 34- to 35-year-olds were involved in interracial relationships. Roughly 10 years later, 20 percent of 18- to 19-year-olds and 16 percent of 24- to 25-year-olds were in an interracial relationship. (Information on 34- to 35-year-olds was not available for this period.)
While Hispanic is an ethnic group composed of both racial and ethnic groups, Joyner, like many demographers, uses the categories -- non-Hispanic white, non-Hispanic black (or African-American) and Hispanic (or Latino) -- to measure race।
In Joyner's study, Hispanics had the highest rate of interracial relationships: 45 percent of 18- to 19-year-olds and 33 percent of 24- to 25-year-olds were in interracial relationships in the early 2000s, compared with blacks (20 and 14 percent, respectively) and whites (16 and 12 percent, respectively)। While Asians appear to be comparable to Hispanics in terms of rates of interracial involvement, age patterns for Asians were not presented in the study, Joyner said, because there were so few within some of the age groups in the surveys.
"In the analyses we did run, however, it looks like involvement in interracial relationships increases with age for Asians," said Joyner।
"Although interracial relationships were far more common in the early part of this decade than in the mid-1990s -- about five percentage points higher -- they still decline with age," said Joyner, noting that the fact that many young adults' transition to marriage is also a factor in the age decline. The rate of interracial marriage, however, is still relatively uncommon: in 2002, only 2.9 percent of all marriages were interracial, according to the U.S. Bureau of the Census.
In a 2003 study, Joyner had reported that adolescents in interracial romances were significantly less willing to reveal their relationship to family and close friends than those in same-race relationships, suggesting that such relationships still do not receive whole-hearted approval by society।
The study was supported, in part, by grants from McGill University, Cornell, the University of Pennsylvania and the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.
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Your Attitudes Towards Interracial Relationships
Interracial relationships are viewed as a positive step towards smoother race relations by some; as "sellout" behavior and a denial of racial heritage by others.
According to U।S. Census reports, interracial marriages more than doubled between 1980 and 1995. Black/White marriages increased an estimated 96% overall, with marriages between of Black women and White men increasing 171%. Blacks with other races increased a whopping 124% during the same period.
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According to U।S. Census reports, interracial marriages more than doubled between 1980 and 1995. Black/White marriages increased an estimated 96% overall, with marriages between of Black women and White men increasing 171%. Blacks with other races increased a whopping 124% during the same period.
Please share your thoughts, opinions and experiences with interracial dating and marriage by responding to the interracialfriends.com
7/28/2007
Interracial love&relationship help and advice
With the distance between us, I flew to Seattle to meet her। We fell in love with each other soon and we feel happy and thankful. We will marry soon.Though it is becoming more and more accepted in society today, interracial dating and relationships still cause conflicts and suffer from judgment। There are many who choose to share their love and life with one of another color, which is wonderful because love sees no color. Unfortunately, not everyone sees it this way and that includes family and friends. The opinions of your parents, other relatives and friends truly effect how you feel about yourself and the way you handle your relationship. Being accepted as a couple would make things much more comfortable and harmonious, but that is the thing about interracial dating. . . it can be more challenging than most relationships. Try Interracial relationship now. It is difficult to ignore or not let the judgment of others influence your emotions and thoughts, especially because most of the judgment that will be served to you will come from your immediate family. It may sound hopeless, but there are ways you can keep your relationship and help your family understand and accept your decision. Love-Sessions offers you interracial dating advice that will assist you in using methods that could make the situation less rocky and more pleasant. You will also be advised on how to save your relationship from damage and how to keep it happy and loving, as well as ways on how to progress your relationship in growing more loving and stronger, regardless of the judgment and criticism it faces and will face.
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